Brother dating my ex fluoridating peach
This reality isn’t the end of the world — men have been taking on the breadwinner role for eons, and if you make a family with your guy, you can do it, too.Send questions to [email protected] Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 N. Should I tell him I can’t be with him until he can succeed financially? If you two are going to be together long-term, you will be the breadwinner.Distraught DEAR DISTRAUGHT: Five years of being with someone should tell you everything important you need to know. This means that you will have to get a job where you make enough to support both of you while he does what he can to supplement this.He asked me to meet him at a local bar when he was out for his brother’s birthday.(His brother, my ex, also invited me.) But I was unable to attend because I had my children that evening and no sitter.
There’s only one problem: In the five years we’ve known each other, he hasn’t kept any job for long.
The thing that complicates it for me is when I think he likes me I feel myself pulling back because I don’t want anything serious at this time (I’m not even divorced yet) but when I feel like he isn’t interested in me, it hurts my feelings. And you don’t seem to be focusing on that fact, which strikes us as imprudent.
(Maybe this is a guy thing.) However, the most likely reason this new guy—the brother—is giving you mixed signals, is because he knows that it’s not a great idea to date his brother’s ex-wife, or rather, wife, since you’re not yet divorced. We tend not to date our friends’ ex-girlfriends, or ex-wives. Yes, it does happen, but only under special circumstances, and often after some time has passed.
I find it hard to bring up my fears about our financial future.
I don’t want money to be the reason we can’t be together, and I’m embarrassed to say it’s important to me, but its importance has made itself known.