He'd laid all his cards on the table, and I was either in or out.Oddly enough, he never asked if I had children and I don't remember ever bringing mine up.I learned that he had two children and was separated, largely because he and his wife weren't intimate enough. He was looking for someone who was sexy, confident and stable, which he wasn't finding by dating younger women. After my past experience with the 29-year-old, I was worried that he might not be on my maturity level.But the way he spoke about his career and what he wanted out of our arrangement told me there were no nasty tricks up his sleeve.On that second date, John and I decided to give the sugar daddy-sugar baby thing a go.(Or, "cougar baby," I guess it's called, since I'm older than him.) I told him what my car payment, rent and living expenses were, and he agreed to give me ,500 a month in cash. We were on the same page from the start, which made things easy.
Nothing too crazy or screamed, "I'm on here to have reckless sex and get flown to party in Miami Beach every weekend!
I wanted to take control of my life and smile again. As striking as this blonde-hair, blue-eyed guy was, he just wasn't stable enough for me. But OKCupid, e Harmony — none of them felt quite right for me.
A few weeks after signing the divorce papers, I jumped right back into the dating game with a 29-year-old I had met at a work function. By then, I was 50 with three kids and unwavering aspirations of getting my MBA. I went on a few dates here and there, but mostly they were just … It wasn't just because the men didn't look like their profile pictures.
But over time, I felt myself becoming more like a nanny and less like his wife.
Foreplay felt like a chore, and eventually we weren't having sex at all.